We spend so much time avoiding, ignoring, changing or denying our emotions that have a negative social connotation. That's draninig. We need to give ourselves permisssion to feel the wide, all encompassing range of human emotions without adding guilt, shame or regret. Given the world we live in and all the tragedy that unfolds, we'd have to be a sociopath not to feel hurt, loss, pain and sadness. The next time we wake up in a foul mood, let's give ourselves permission to say "Today, I'm feeling (insert "negative" emotion) and it's okay. I'm a human being and to be human is to feel (negative emotion) some of the time. There's nothing wrong with this feeling and there's nothing wrong with me for feeling this way."
Now, of course if this particular mood persists in duration or intensifies, this may indicate a larger, underlying mental health need requiring treatment. My point is to begin to embrace all of our emotions as normal. We're complicated. We have feelings. And, we are not designed to feel "great" 100% of the time any more than the weather is designed to be 75 degrees and sunny all day.
Be kind to each other and to yourself.
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